Monday, April 25, 2011

Just a note

Those babies are scheduled to be reunited with their parents.  Family services always tries to keep the family together.  SIL takes them 3-4-5 times a week to their homes for visits.  One family didn't even have a home until last week.  The other one will have a home.  But.......

My question is.....a normal baby is a handful...imagine a mother who probably is still struggling with alcohol addition  trying to be reunited with her child that has FAS?  How will she cope. 

I didn't expect to see such normal looking children when I went there.  Their outward appearance has nothing to do with their fucked up their iddy biddy brains.  They are much slower to develop and when they get older they have a very hard time figuring out right from wrong along with a whole lot of other shit.

The one little guy took a long time to focus.  He sort of looked spaced out.  But once my niece had him on her lap and got his attention by making noises and putting her hair in his face .... he finally centered on her. It took awhile.  Then we got a huge toothless grin.  He has problems with his hands and feet always twitching and then he scratches his head ... so he still has to wear little baby mittens and be swaddled at night.

I just hope Child and Family Services doesn't give them back to the parents before they and the babies are ready to go.  I hear so many horror stories on how people abuse little children with their addictions ..... and I saw the little one's first hand this weekend ... it hit home.  The little guys name is Zues.  I think I fell in love. 

3 comments:

Donna said...

Oh Joan...Your heart just breaks when you see things like this! It's so hard Not to fall in love....
hughugs

Judy said...

I was in love just seeing their pictures. Such darling babies, it makes me weep to think of the life ahead of them.

Sally said...

So, so sad. :(